Thoughts had been circulating through out my mind to blog about this topic as to how better can I pen down because, my thoughts might orient towards my family. But, I had to make sure that whatever I'm pen down here is general and nothing specific to any individual. The reason I'm writing might be because, eventhough we had realised their value much earlier and we might be doing the right job, there is much more that we can do. We or indeed I'm gifted to have such a wonderful parents who are primarily the reason for what I'm today(Including my brother). The moment I enter an orphanage, the moment I see children wearing torn clothes or living to meet their basic needs or the thirst for love and affection, I feel honoured that how lucky I'm to have parents for all these. The very next moment makes me one thing clear: "We or rather I, must work for these young children, get them whatever we have got." The reason for specification of "We or rather I" being the fact that everybody wants to see the healthier part of the society. But, we always defer the things and blame it on somebody's shoulders. Everything starts from the work that we need to do and without excuses. This is very important since eventhough, we have the willingness to work for the betterment of society, our Saturday sleeps/movies and Sunday shopping get prioritized among all. We throw lot of excuses when it comes for doing work. There was a mail yesterday in my mailbox:
Father asked his 25 year old child after seeing a crow sitting on the window: "What is this my child?". First time, Boy replied "Its a crow dad". Then again father asked the same question. This time he replied with little irritation "Its a crow!!!", Then again father asked the same question, Boy felt irritated very much and scolded "How many times should I tell you, Its a Crow, Crow!!!". Then father went to room and brought his dairy and showed wordings which read "Today, my 3 year old hubby asked me 23 times what is that sitting on the window and I replied each time with lot of affection and love that its a crow".
I agree, practically, we'll have lot of tension in mind and pressure on our head, whatever might be the case, our priorities must never change. We might get anger sometimes for the very reason being they oppose what we might say. But, whatever might be the case, we must never ever prioritize more than our parents. This being the most difficult job, People might take this in different ways. We might go out with friends or anything, but, we must make sure we realize that there are two souls which are always cramming.
The moment we find a girl friend or the moment we get married, our priorities start changing.
I agree to the views that if you learn something good and started implementing that in your life after marriage, the view that exists is that "You are changed after marriage. Its because of marriage you are changing your views". But, what I feel is, its not wrong to accept/implement any good thing after marriage. Primarily, we must construct our views basing on whether the view is affecting our parent's sentiments. I know we must change according to the world, but not at the cost of parent's sentiments.
Its not wrong to hang out with friends, but, we must make sure that we must spend enough time with parents as well. Remember, they expect to be with us always, all the time. But, at the same time, Our friends who consider our parents as their own, being a part of our family, are the ones who can make us understand these things much more clearly when we are going out of track.
I'm just thinking generally and nothing specific to anybody. Its a fact that wife, leaving her parents and siblings joining home. She is a lifetime companion who is ready to share joys and sorrows with you and with your family as well. Again, we must understand that it takes little time to get adjusted to new environment and new people and we must convince our parents regading this if things are not working fine at inception. But, we must make sure, we make her comfortable as well and ultimately, she must feel that our parents/siblings are her own. One very good thing, once my brother told me. Its that his wife is not leaving her parents and coming, she must feel happy that she is getting another parents who equivalently love her and treat her as their own daughter. We must love them retaining the same affection/love with parents. This might be very much true when you consider our present generation. Some are even ready to leave parents and just settle down far away just for the heck of girlfriend/boyfriend. C'mon folk, They are the primary motive, they are the true inspiration, they are the true reason for what we are today. Are we projecting ourselves towards a healthier society? Really do we mean? We must make our views oriented towards a healthier future considering our parents views as well. We must not start blaming our parents for not being open minded as we are. Since the environment with which we are brought up is entirely different than what they are with. We must try to convince them that whatever we are doing is for the good of the whole family.
Just, I've penned down whatever thoughts I had in my mind and I hope its very hard for our generation to accept these facts. Its always better, if we have this in mind and make our views better about parents.
Once again, I'm really blessed to have such wonderful parents/family/friends.
C'mon Folk, its our responsibility to create a healthier society. So, lets make sure each and every orphan in this world must not feel that they are.